While driving we spent most of the time trying to figure out what the fuck happened?! We were going through different possible scenarios, but nothing fit. We just couldn't wrap our heads around (pun so-not intended) someone slipping off a goddamned rock and dying. Who does that?? I mean, seriously….who does that? We wrote down questions to ask when we finally arrived at the coroner's office, which finding it was a challenge in it’s own right. I swear, this whole process has been a damn debacle…trying to do everything right and proper while dealing with these new feelings of 'what the fuck?’, anger and grief is completely...well, bizarre.
Stop #1: Kern County Sheriff’s/Coroner’s Office
This stop was first purely because of it’s location. I was told that morning (and the night before) that dad and his belongings were at the Sheriff’s office in Lake Isabella, but after a call made while we were on the road confirmed that he and his belongings were at the office in Bakersfield, on the way to Lake Isabella. *What an easy place to find in a lovely, clean, beautiful city! It must make grieving families feel less stressed; what a great experience! *Excuse my sarcasm, it’s way too easy for me…
After arriving to the coroner's office, we're sitting in the waiting room and well, waiting on instructions on what to do next. Within a few minutes an older gentleman walks in through the front door; he’s wearing a white, button down shirt and black slacks. As soon as I see him walk in, I think ‘he looks like a mortician’ and then boom: I know what he’s there for. He goes up to the bullet proof glass and tells the receptionist that he’s there to “pick up Glenn Davis”. Here is this mortician to take “his” body...our dad’s body. The same body that we've hugged and loved. We all started crying because shit just got real. Really real. If this mortician guy, or we, would have arrived 15-20 minutes later or earlier, we probably wouldn't have had this encounter. But maybe we all needed this? To know this isn't a horribly, cruel joke, to know that this is in fact real life? Regardless, it happened. Regardless, it is real.
Stop #2: “The Rock” Around Mile Marker 23 off the 178 hwy
The next stop was the “spot”. We stopped at a few places along the way and those areas just didn't make sense. The river bed was too close, the rocks were relatively small…seeing them just made less and less sense, adding more and more to our question list. We kept on looking close to the 23 mile marker….although it really was closer to the 24 mile, maybe mid-mile, I’m not sure, it's all still sort of a blur. We then continued our mission and drove up on this HUGE rock ledge….HUGE. It was a pull off and completely obvious once we saw it. That was the spot. That’s where “it” happened.
|Arial shot - just to see how large it is. There are two cars on the road, this can at least show some scale|
|Craig & Tony scaring the hell out of Kathy and Me (and showing the divots in the boulder|
Stop #3: Towing Place
It was a shock, to say the least, that we needed to pay to get my dad’s truck out of impound (aka: a dirt filled lot that was absolutely, completely empty) when we just learned about his passing the day prior. His truck had been there since Thursday the 20th, we were there picking it up on Wednesday the 26th - almost a week's worth of impound fees when we had no damn clue it was even there.
Once the hubs got into the driver's seat and I hopped into the passenger seat...I sort of lost it - the whole way home - I cried off and on. I cried so much that the next day my forehead hurt.
I don’t know what is worse. That I called them on a hunch and physically heard them confirm that this random body was my dad? Or the fact that they didn't call to confirm that this random body was my dad. They had his truck, his wallet, his fucking driver’s license. Seriously, just call us and tell us that they have his truck! If they didn't want to mention a body - then don’t! We’re smart people, we’d be able to say “Well, that’s strange that you have his truck, he hasn't been home in a fucking week!“ At this point it’s obvious what is worse. It’s the latter option of the two. I need someone to blame…and that’s fine with me because I am sure as hell not blaming our father.
To our fam - let's get our light shining bright - he'd want that! I love you all!